I was reading a fellow Blogger's page about maintaining privacy and I so need that. Lately when I get excited and want to share stuff with my colleagues and friends the more follow up questions are being asked and confusing thoughts start to linger. Especially with my colleagues. It's becoming a back lash for me and I'm getting seriously annoyed. I can't really blame them but then again how silly are they to come up with insulting questions. I'm starting to think they may think of me different or that they find me humorous and want to get entertained on what I may tell them next. It's killing me and I know I started it so now I need to set the tone for their nuisances. It's nothing deep per say but it's more of me telling them about my dates or how I met someone etc. What kills me is they will ask me everyday, so have you heard from so and so, or did you go out this weekend have you met anyone, or are you bumbed he didn't call, did you really like him. It's like people it's not that serious and I'm only sharing it with you for small talk humor. Lets not draw it out like there's more to it, if there's more maybe I'll tell you maybe I wont. But gees you don't see me asking how your marriage is going am I? I know I need to start keeping it to myself. But then the questions become what's wrong did someone not call you this week? I'm going to blow up and be like it's none of your F*** business. But no I will be the bigger person and I have this week by responding to their answers short and saying I don't know what my plans are and that yes I did have a good weekend. I chilled and hung out with good people. That's it! How about yours? Of course they keep it short as well. I know my personality tends to talk about things maybe too much in detail and folks become more interested. I can't help it if my stories are more engaging than theirs. I am the only single gal in my group so there are more stories to tell. But I need to keep things to myself now because I'm starting to resent it all and it's coming back to me at the expense of my life experiences because they are a bit personal and I'm taking their comments personal. Now that I see how it's affecting me maybe I do need to just keep it to myself and maintain the professionalism at work the way it should be.
*Note to self: Keeping your personal life private is a start to keeping your thoughts and emotions in lined and gaining a better grasp of knowing yourself without outside influence.
Yeah.. I had that problem so I stopped communicating altogether with one person I worked with. I believe it caused resentment between her and I. I think a good rule of thumb is to have close couple of friends you tell stuff to at work. People who's opinions you trust. For me, I hate judgement so I'd also say people who are too judgemental or who speak in absolute truths (like just because something similiar happened to them that has to be what's going on).. Just my advice.
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