Here's some pics. I took. Isn't nature beautiful!

Summer Meadow

Spring Bloom

Butterfly Blue

Chicago Fall

Does that mean he's interested?

I showed up at this network event by myself.  My girl friend had a flat tire so she didn't show up till hours later.  I'm at the bar minding my own business smiling and nodding so I can blend in with the crowd.  A friend of mine that I knew said hello and he introduced me to someone.  I totally didn't catch his name because I was mesmerized on how fine he was.  I said to my self DAM he must be taken.  I quickly turned back around to the bar.  I continued sipping my drink which was very tasty and refreshing from the sweltering humidity that's been going on.  He stood right beside me and ordered his drink as he made sure to keep his tab open.  I graciously smiled and asked what does he do.  He has a great job and a beautiful smile.  He laughed at me because I was a bit obnoxious about how I went about it...maybe I was nervous or maybe I just went straight to the chase and asked him does he know of any job openings in my field.  He said he didn't know then I went back on my way continuing to sip my tasty drink.  As we both continued to stare at the bar or the TV I suppose a gal "non black" chick came up quickly in between us rushing to order her drink.  I say she was older, a bit confident and didn't care I was in her way.  Clearly she was on a mission and I just sat there watching her game.  I may be new to the whole "game game" on how to catch a man but for some reason I say that was clear as day on how she went about it.  I know I wasn't the only chick that noticed him so I got to say to myself that is the only reason why she had to have stood right in between us because there was space on my left side.  I'm just saying, anyways of course she looked to her right and started chatting.  He  being as polite of course joined the conversation in which my guy friend happened to still be in the circle and introduced them as well.  I said to myself man I need to keep my mouth shut and be coy like this girl is, acting like she don't see him.  You know I try not to act "but hurt" so I occasionally smiled and joined the conversation.  She was very friendly to me maybe cuz I was a threat but chick never introduced herself either.  Anyways they were all cheering as I slowly turned back around staring at the non factor television.  I didn't mind watching TV after I while I was enjoying my drink and started chatting up with another gal to my left.  We whined up chatting and a older gentleman started to join our conversation.  He was funny not from the D but was on his 3rd interview tomorrow he's a "cardiologist" should I say so the gal and I real quick started ordering from the top shelf.....you know I started drinking scotch LOL.....no just kidding about ordering drinks he did take care of us.  But I asked the gal has she ever had scotch before and she started telling me the way to get a man is by letting him know what you drink.  She said the higher quality in your drink will upgrade the men you meet.  The gentleman didn't deny that at all.  He told me I need to listen to her.  I said I'm not ready for all that.  Anyways she had to step away and the fine man I was checking out earlier came back to the bar to close his tab.  He saw I was chatting with the older gentleman and I looked at him and smiled as he smiled back at me with the "I see you" look.  I felt we had the eye contact connection and was a bit bummed to see him check out.  But I continued talking to the older guy because he did have a striking conversation although I wasn't interested in him.  As we were talking the guy interrupted us and gave me his card.  He said sorry he had to leave but would like to chat soon.  I had a surprised look but happy he liked me look as he walked away with that bright smile of confidence.  The older guy said "let me back up and have him talk to you sorry I was blocking his way you should of said something".   I said "I had no idea he was interested".  The guy suggested I text him to let him know I'm interested.  Let's just say we scheduled a date for tomorrow ..........to be continued.

Greetings! I'm back again!

I'm back by popular demand LOL.  Sorry I've been on hiatus due to stress from work but I'm free literally and enjoying this freedom.  I have a lot to recap on these past several months and lots to dish about but for now just to keep the momentum going and have you in suspense.... let's just say pimping is not easy look out for that soon! haha. 

Miss yall!

Laughing at yourself is the best remedy

Picture this.....I'm walking my dog.  This time around it's a bit late because what I can I say I go when I feel like it.  I took him to his normal mini dog park where they have the doggy bags available for use.  I didn't want to go over there this time around because for some odd reason I had a feeling I might run into my neighbor.  He's someone who I had this thing with for a while and I've been trying to avoid him any way I can.  I decided to pass on the park.  I walk back to my building and as I'm strolling along enjoying the nice weather and cool breeze this loud AC unit came on and startled me.  I jumped and chuckled a little because it was funny having to see myself jump out of nowhere.  As I continue walking towards the mailbox I see my neighbor driving into the complex, my heart jumped.  I waited a few seconds, thinking he may stop by the mailbox, so as I thought about looking foolish I proceeded to walk faster towards my building.  Three young teenage boys hanging outside their patio started whistling, trying to get my attention, saying they want to walk my dog.  I looked at them with a smart smile and walked up the stairs, when all of a sudden I fell all fours to the ground.  I didn't trip over my dog in which I sometimes do but there was nothing on the ground that gave me a reason for my fall.  Nothing!

Luckily the guys didn't see me because they were adjacent to the building so they didn't see me walk up the stairs.  My first thought was I hope my neighbor didn't see me, which I wasn't sure at this point if he parked or drove but the second I brushed myself up....a voice yelled out "are you ok?"  I quickly turned around and this random stranger was standing there continuing to ask if I was ok.  My heart dropped out of embarrassment.  I couldn't believe someone saw me.  I was mortified!  Then I started laughing hysterically at myself so hard!

I guess this was God's message to say stop sweating the small stuff and just live!  Honestly laughing so hard at myself helped me feel alive again.  It helped me feel a bit happy at where I'm at, at this moment.

I needed it.  Thank you!

Being single is Overrated!

I read a quote from an artist saying "You don't want to live your life and then meet someone. You want to share your life with someone."  I couldn't agree more.

It's funny because I know several men who has to do all these things they want to finish and accomplish before they make that commitment or when they are ready.  But I'm thinking when do you decide when you're ready?  Will you ever really be ready?  Do men look at their bank account one day and say yes it's time, let me look for the hottest chick that comes my way and spoil her and convince her that I'm the perfect guy and then 5 years later you find out you two have nothing in common?  Seriously is that the proper way to say you're ready?


It's like men want this perfect scenario of how things should be but they are only looking at the superficial aspect of the relationship.  I understand a man wanting to provide for his family but it seems like today the men want to get the house, nice car, money in the bank all on their own to pull that "perfect" woman.  I find it unfortunate when they realize this perfect life isn't what it's cracked up to be and before you know it time and money has been spent to find the reality of it all.  The grass really isn't greener.

What happened to couples working together to make a goal, to go to school while the partner supports him/her, or to save together to get the nice house/car.  Why can it be done together?  This cycle is all messed up because now men are about having someone temporary to hook up with to fight the loneliness and keep their ego high.  At the same time working towards their own selfish goals thinking someone better will come along.  I'm sure it's possibly and probable that anyone can pull anything depending what they're offering but is that the basis for an ideal relationship?  I know they want love too but I find it sad that sometimes the good ones are the ones that are helping build them where they want to be but us women take and accept or even hope that his potential love will foster but his vision of his potential "wife" will fall into the timing trap of when he's ready.

It SUXS!

Fool for You! Happy Valentines Day!

What?! That real, that deep, that burning, that amazing unconditional, inseparable love
That feel like forever, that always emotional but still exceptional love
Can't nobody tell me nothing it is what it is
And any mistake you make I, I just may forgive
Ooh, right now, right now at this very moment still love her like I loved her then
Oh, I love her in and out and up and down and 'round and 'round and over and over again
So rare they swear that you just don't exist
And It's only one person I can think of makes me feel like this
And I'm a fool, such a fool for you!


Oh, So sweet, so deep, so real, oooh we God damn
That's some powerful stuff
Oh, How you do it? D-d-do it
Keep it coming baby
I can't seem to get enough
What you do, what you say
Makes me wanna l-l-love you
Baby, I don't even have a choice
Ooh, And if I did it still be you,
Cause you're the man, among these other boys


Sweet sugar, I surrender
White flag,
Oh I won't even put up a fight
Ooh, Cause there ain't a damn thing wrong
About this kind of loving
Ooh and, it feels so right


Gonna, write a letter tell it to my mama
And she gon' tell the world that I love You!
Oooh, Some people probably say I'm crazy
But I don't mind, being a fool for you.


I'm a fool, I'm a fool, I'm such a fool...

Song by Cee-lo and Melanie Fiona

The love you live

I hate to share this but it's something that's so heart wrenching and terrible to hear when an old friend is experiencing something bad.  She is currently pregnant with her second child while she just had her first child less than a year ago.  Her husband is leaving her for another woman because he realized he never wanted to have kids.  Horrible, horrible to know and to hear after years of them being together.

I can't explain nor ever feel what she's going through but it definitely puts you in perspective of yourself and your life.  You start to question what if this happened to me or fearing that this can happen to you and afraid that who you think you know you never knew at all.

Can love really get you that far deep to where you are so blinded?  Yes, she said "there were warning signs, yes, you start to see everything clearly when it hits the fan, but then how do you know when to look away or walk away when the love is so strong or the faith you have to work it out."  It's a really good question and a hard question depending on whomever's circumstances may be.  I sat in silence.......because I'm sure and believe Love can make you do some of the craziest things.  It's interesting because it is a catch 22 as far as the faith of love and the fear of love can have on you.  The risk and the reward are both so much to where it's almost the same.  Either way you experience it, there will be a significant affect on one's life.  I guess in this game called life we all choose one way but sometimes life forces you to choose another.  That's what makes the world go round.  No one ever sees this as its happening but it happens.  My truth is there is no right or wrong way to find Love.  I suppose, the love you have for yourself that will always direct you on how you want to live your life.  That's a promise I can keep.

My prayers are with her and her family.