It's funny because I know several men who has to do all these things they want to finish and accomplish before they make that commitment or when they are ready. But I'm thinking when do you decide when you're ready? Will you ever really be ready? Do men look at their bank account one day and say yes it's time, let me look for the hottest chick that comes my way and spoil her and convince her that I'm the perfect guy and then 5 years later you find out you two have nothing in common? Seriously is that the proper way to say you're ready?
It's like men want this perfect scenario of how things should be but they are only looking at the superficial aspect of the relationship. I understand a man wanting to provide for his family but it seems like today the men want to get the house, nice car, money in the bank all on their own to pull that "perfect" woman. I find it unfortunate when they realize this perfect life isn't what it's cracked up to be and before you know it time and money has been spent to find the reality of it all. The grass really isn't greener.
What happened to couples working together to make a goal, to go to school while the partner supports him/her, or to save together to get the nice house/car. Why can it be done together? This cycle is all messed up because now men are about having someone temporary to hook up with to fight the loneliness and keep their ego high. At the same time working towards their own selfish goals thinking someone better will come along. I'm sure it's possibly and probable that anyone can pull anything depending what they're offering but is that the basis for an ideal relationship? I know they want love too but I find it sad that sometimes the good ones are the ones that are helping build them where they want to be but us women take and accept or even hope that his potential love will foster but his vision of his potential "wife" will fall into the timing trap of when he's ready.
It SUXS!
I always used to say that I want a witness to my life, someone to validate all my successes and failure. Console me when I need and put me in my place when I need that... I think what you say is true, for me timing is important. They can find the best woman but if it's not the "time" they look right past it. And then they look back to wonder where the time has gone (45 and single with no memories of a successful relationship)
ReplyDeleteAnd you know what's funny is that the men who do reach their success and reflect on their failed relationships do look back at the one who got away and wondered "what if". Seriously. So far every guy I know has one special one they remember.
ReplyDeleteAnd you know what's funny is that the men who do reach their success and reflect on their failed relationships do look back at the one who got away and wondered "what if". Seriously. So far every guy I know has one special one they remember.
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