The right reason

Someone said "maybe a lot of marriages fail because they fell in love for the wrong reason".  I paused, because I questioned well I don't think anyone goes into marriage thinking it's going to fail.  "Of course not", he said, "but I'm sure they never got to the root as to the main reason they were in love".  So I let him elaborate more and he said "There's someone or something all of us are attracted to, looks, cars, money, security, kids, etc...it can be a long list but whatever is the basis of pursing or interested in someone make sure there's something more substantial than material things because it's not enough to hold a relationship.  I'ts not!  That's why 50% or marriages fail because the superficial basis of what makes you think you're in love can only last for so long.  What sustains us is the falling for the person.  That person as a human being outside of how much he makes for a living, how good in bed he is, his career title.  I said lets not be naive about this because we all have our preferences now, you can't fault for what makes you happy.  He agrees it's about what makes you happy but making sure what makes you happy is for the right reasons.  So here's my list of my qualifications of the right reasons:

1. Money...how does he use his money?...Does he mainly spend it on cars, fancy items?  He may be materialistic.
2. Looks...how often does he spend time checking himself?...He could be vain, insecure, superficial, gay.
3. Career title....Does he love what he do?  Or is he in it for to gain social status, to appease others.

These are my top 3 of what women look for, so in my opinion we should look a little deeper than the material items that can cloud our heads of what love is.  If we can find someone that is a bit deeper than what I listed that's great but to see if you truly love someone, I can say if you were to lose everything you had would you be there to support him and be ready to start over and build your lives together or would you resent him? Can you really answer that question.  If you know he's smart, witty, kind, strong, and have values.  Then you shouldn't doubt what he's capable of.  Another thing when times get rough, you will need motivation.  My motivation, when all things fail, can I see myself waking up first thing in the morning to see his face.  If you can stand that, then I think you have a chance at this thing called love and a fulfilling marriage.  Same goes for the men.